I want to dedicate this blog to all the mothers and grandmothers whose children have died. This is probably the worst fate that anyone can endure.

When I was five, my brother died in a boating accident. The grief that filled my house was unbearable. My mother could not let go. As a child, I could not understand her pain. All I knew was that I lost my mother. No matter how she tried to hide her pain, she was not the mother that I once knew. When I looked into her eyes, all I could see was sadness.
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Years later when I was searching for my spiritual path, I could see that my development was going towards being a medium. I was certain that this was not the right path for me. I wanted to bring joy to my clients, not deal with the sadness of death. I wanted everyone to learn about the love and companionship of their angels. While living in Manhattan, I started teaching angel communication. I struggled to keep the dead away. I was determined, “No dead people.”
I could not bear looking into eyes filled with such intense sadness again.

One of my first sessions was with a woman who had lost her young son. I was determined to communicate with her angels. During our session she started to cry, tears streaming down her face. She said, “I came here because my child is dead.” I could scarcely bear to look at her. If I talked to her child, it would make me a medium, but something was making me continue in spite of myself. “There are a lot of spirits here,” I said weakly. Then I saw a bald, seven-year-old boy lagging behind the other entities. I described the boy, and she told me that her seven-year-old son had died of leukemia. Then she started to cry harder. I told the boy that his mommy wanted to talk to him. It was very important to her. I asked him if he would come forward. “I can’t,” he told me. “Every time I talk to Mommy, she cries. We used to be together all the time. Then I made her sad by becoming sick. I don’t know why she’s still sad. She wanted me to get well, and now I am.” When I told his mother what the boy had said, she was startled at first but then wiped away the tears on her cheeks. She smiled as she hugged me and said, “Thank you. Oh, thank you! I will try to never cry again. Now I can say goodbye and let him be at peace.” That was the last I saw her, but I will never forget her and the little boy who had leukemia. Because of them, I knew that my calling was to be a medium. I knew I could communicate with people who had died, and I knew I could bring comfort to those who loved them.

I spent the following years of my life teaching people that death is the end of a life but not of a relationship. Now when I look into the eyes of a client, I don’t see sadness but instead the courage that enables this person to endure each awakening day.

There is a story of an Orca whale named Tahequah whose baby died shortly after birth. Tahequah could not let her baby go. She could not bare to watch its lifeless body drop deep into the ocean, so instead of letting go, she carried her baby’s body on her back for 17 days. Tahequah’s pod of Orcas swam with her and allowed her to grieve until she was ready to let go. How does a mother let go of her sorrow? All one can ask is for a pod to support you as you carry your grief.

During my work as a medium, I have been asked the same question many times, “Does my loved one send me signs?” The answer is usually, “yes.” Because our minds are so filled with unnecessary chatter, we miss the signs.

My client Yvette was in desperate need of a sign from her deceased husband, Tom. All through our session, she kept asking me, “Why doesn’t Tom send me signs?” Tom’s answer to me was that he always sends her signs. He went on to tell me that he is so happy that she is bonding with their dog. Tom was a true dog lover, and Yvette went along with his passion because she loved Tom. After Tom died, Yvette noticed that the dog was grieving Tom. The dog seemed lost, just as lost as Yvette.
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Yvette explained to me that it was as if the dog understood her grief. One day when she was sitting in Tom’s chair crying, the dog came over to her and put his head on her lap. At that point, she knew that Tom would want her to help the dog. Instead of crying in his chair, she grabbed the dog’s leash and started going on daily walks. Tom’s spirit told me he is so happy that Yvette and the dog are spending this time together and that when they are on walks, he sends her signs. He wants her to look down on the path because he puts a heart in front of her. I told her to try mindful walking and that the answer will come. Yvette looked a little puzzled, but she was grateful and thanked me for our session. A few months later, I received a call from Yvette. She was excited to tell me of the collection of stones, pebbles, leaves and sticks all shaped as a hearts that she has collected on her daily path.

Most of the time, it is much easier for a child to receive messages. A child lives in the moment and does not question the signs. For a child, death and spirit communication is natural. Sharon has been studying with me for years and really does understand the journey of a soul. Yet after her mother died, even with all her understanding, she went through a considerable amount of grief. Sharon felt comfort in speaking to her granddaughter about her mother. This is a beautiful story that Sharon shared with me. “When my mom passed, my then 7 year old granddaughter said ‘Gigi, I asked Gram to send me ladybugs.’ I told her how nice that was, and soon after, my granddaughter started calling me whenever she saw a ladybug in her room. She would say, ‘Gram sent me another ladybug!’ I always thought how cute it was but thought it was a coincidence. That was nearly two years ago, and she has called me more than a few times to tell me about another ladybug in her room. About a year ago, my daughter moved into a new house, and my granddaughter called me to tell me the same thing…that my mom was sending her ladybugs in her new room. Honestly, I still chalked it up to coincidence, but a few months ago, I was over at her house, sitting with my granddaughter in her bedroom. We started talking about my mom and she told me again about a ladybug that she had found a week or so ago. I told her how nice that was, and we started talking about something else while playing a game. A few minutes had passed when I looked up and saw something on the ceiling. I didn’t have my glasses on and automatically assumed it was a spider. I said ‘Kinny, is that a spider up there?’ She looked up and much to my surprise, she said ‘It’s a ladybug…see I told you!’”

Take the time and learn to trust. These gifts can be anywhere.

Our pets are important in our lives. There is no question that we will connect with them in the afterlife. When working as a medium, there are so many times that I see the spirit of my client’s beloved pet wanting to give them a message from Heaven. Animals communicate telepathically in life and in spirit, and this is how I can receive messages from them. The messages that they share with me are always extremely healing.
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Patches was born to a litter in Dale’s neighborhood. Patches and Dale immediately became best friends. Patches lived a good life for eighteen years. After his death, Dale became very involved with his new family. But as the years passed, the ache in his heart grew stronger, longing for his best friend. In a reading, Patches told Dale that he will be back in his arms next year. By the end of the following year, Dale’s work colleague had to give up her young dog because she was moving out of the country. Dale went over to her house just to take a look. For both, it was love at first sight. Even though the dog looked quit different, Dale smiled when he saw the same patch over his eye. The soul of this dog was given the job to watch over Dale.

Joan loved her horses. When her beloved Nicky died, sadly Joan decided that her time as a horse owner would have to come to an end. She was getting older, and the care was difficult. But most of all, she did not want to die and leave her horses feeling alone and abandoned. When I first communicated with the spirit of Nicky, he was considering coming back to Joan, but Joan encouraged him to stay in spirit. She promised him that she would be fine and to wait for her in Heaven. Soon after, Nicky found a beautiful heavenly horse pasture with a new horse friend. Now when Joan communicates with him, she sees him healthy, happy and running free, knowing that one day he will meet her the moment she crosses over.

If you are anticipating the return of your pet, try to relax and trust the process. The exact timing and place cannot be forced. It happens in perfect and divine timing for all souls involved. Just know that whatever decision you make, your souls are bonded, and you will be together either on Earth or in the afterlife.

Whether the love of your life is a dog, cat, horse, bird, guinea pig or any other animal that has won your heart, remember their soul is connected with you. They may reincarnate many times with you in this life or wait for you to take your last breath to welcome you into the afterlife. Often when I am communicating with the spirit of a loved one, the adored pet from life is still by her side. I have also heard many stories that when the last breath is taken, the beloved pet has come to lead them home. One woman’s spirit told me her horse came to give her a final ride into the light. This undying, eternal power of pure love will continue long after death.

If you would like to learn more about animals in the afterlife, I dedicate chapter 8 in my book “A Second Chance to Say Goodbye” to our pets.

February is the month that marketing goes crazy on love. Everywhere we look, our lives are carpeted in hearts, cupids and advertisements that flood the stores, television and media with the reminder of love. This feeling of love can be wonderful for some, but for others it can bring a feeling of despair. When someone we deeply love becomes non- existent in our daily life, it becomes difficult to open our heart to love. Our mind wants to share in the love, but our heart has been shut down by sorrow.
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Throughout my years as a medium, many of my clients have expressed guilt because there have been times when close friends and family are experiencing love, and my client instead has felt extreme sadness and was not able to share in their joy. There is no shame in having these feelings; instead, understand that when our lives have been touched by grief, our hearts become numb.

When my heart is having a difficult time feeling love, I find the meditation “Loving Kindness” opens my heart. There are times when I immediately feel a flood of love pouring through me; other times, it may take a few days.

My client Donna felt very lost after her husband died. She experienced very uncomfortable feelings when spending time with the couples that were close to her and her husband. She expressed to me that the feelings of joy that she once felt for these friends were now covered in anger and resentment. After months of dedicating herself to the “Loving Kindness” meditation and communicating with the spirit of her husband, she was able to release her anger and resentment.

Loving Kindness Meditation

Find a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Start by taking two or three deep breaths
with slow, long and complete exhalations. Let go of any concerns and try your best
to quiet your mind by focusing on the breath. The first group of phrases we practice will be directed towards ourselves:

May I be safe.
May I be happy.
May I be healthy.
May I be peaceful and at ease.

While you say these phrases to yourself, allow yourself to sink into the intentions they express. Loving Kindness Meditation focuses primarily on connecting tothe intention of wishing oneself happiness. Allow the feelings of warmth or love to arise in your body or mind, connect to them, and let them grow as you repeat the phrases. As an aid to the meditation, you might hold an image of yourself in your mind’s eye. This helps reinforce the intentions expressed in the phrases. After a period of directing loving kindness toward yourself, bring to mind someone in your life who has cared deeply for you. Then slowly repeat the same phrases of loving kindness toward them, bringing their image into your mind’s eye.

May you be safe.
May you be happy.
May you be healthy.
May you be peaceful and at ease.

Allow these phrases to come from the heart. Now choose a neutral person, someone you know but have no special feelings towards, perhaps someone at the dry cleaner’s or grocery store. Then slowly repeat phrases of loving kindness toward this person as you bring the image of your acquaintance into your mind’s eye:

May you be safe.
May you be happy.
May you be healthy.
May you be peaceful and at ease.

As you continue the meditation, now bring to mind someone who has hurt you or whom you have ill feeling towards. You might not want to start with the person you feel the most animosity from or towards. Slowly repeat phrases of loving kindness toward that person, bringing the image of this difficult person into your mind’s eye:

May you be safe.
May you be happy.
May you be healthy.
May you be peaceful and at ease.

Keep repeating these phrases until the feelings of loving kindness arise, connecting your feelings with the phrases so that they become stronger as you repeat the words. Try to hold on to these feelings even if only for a moment. If negative thoughts come into your mind,remember that there is no need to judge yourself for having these feelings.

If you would like to learn more about this meditation it is in my book “Healing the Heart of Grief” on page 161

May you have an abundance of love this month.

At this time of the year, everyone is considering the dramatic changes that they can make in their lives for the new year. I prefer going down a path of wonder, hope and possibilities for my soul. When I focus on my outer world, I set myself up for disappointment.
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We must remember that when our time on Earth ends and our soul moves on to the afterlife, our New Year’s resolutions won’t really matter. What will matter is the changes that we made to empower others and to deepen our spiritual life.

During a reading, the spirit of a father told his son that when he was alive, instead of wishing for more money and a better job, his New Year’s resolution should have been to tell his son how much he loved him. He explained that when he died, his comfortable life was not important. During his soul review, he felt the harsh words he had said to his son. He told me to tell his son that he was sorry. He hopes that his son’s New Year’s resolution will be to be a kinder and more thoughtful person. His son thanked me and was very appreciative that his father finally acknowledged his behavior. He certainly did not want to repeat his father’s mistakes.

Each year I ask myself how I can deepen my spiritual life. Fall in love with silence. Stop looking for distractions. Stepping out of the busyness of life, stopping the endless drive to be somewhere else, being in the moment: these are the most glorious New Year’s resolutions that we can make to the soul. Go inward and allow Spirit to guide you.

Hove a blessed beginning to this new year

This is the time when we miss our loved ones. Grief becomes more difficult. Especially when those around us want to celebrate the holidays and the truth is that we don’t feel merry and cheerful. My work as a medium becomes very busy during this time. Having the connection with the spirit of our loved one can be extremely healing. Finding a medium and connecting with your loved ones is the best gift that you can give yourself.
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I had a session with a woman who was having a very hard time with the death of her father. At the age of twelve her parents got divorced and afterward she did not see him very often. When she heard her father was dying she went to his bedside. As he lay in bed dying he took her hand and in a weak whisper he said three words to her,
“I love you.” As tears rolled down her check she told me that she felt peace that he said these words but most of all anger that so much time was lost.

As I opened up for her session, the spirit of her father came rushing in. He explained to her that after the divorced his life fell apart. He started drinking heavily and never really got his life back together. But what he wanted her to remember was the twelve holidays that he spent with her. He loved Christmas and made each one special. He talked about their first, second and third Christmas together, which of course she had no memory of but when he spoke of her fourth through twelve those memories came pouring back. He reminded her of how he taught her how to ice skate and that he bought them matching hats. By the time our session was over it was as though she met her father again. The anger she once felt lifted off her and the peace and love took over. By connecting with spirit you are then better able to understand their perspective.

For myself I step away from the traditional holidays. My mother loved Christmas. Her birthday was Christmas Eve so it made it even more special. I can’t duplicate her traditions but instead I honor her with the lighting of a candle, hanging her ornaments on the tree, using her rosary for prayer and a slice of pizza. These were the simple things that were important to her. But most of all she lives in my heart all year round.

Wishing you a blessed holiday season.

As November approaches, everyone talks about giving thanks. Thanksgiving, our national holiday of thanks, arose from hard times. The first Thanksgiving took place after nearly half the pilgrims and many of the Native Americans had died. It became a national holiday in 1863 in the middle of the Civil War; and in 1939, following the Great Depression, it was moved to November.
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In difficult and uncertain times, people realize how powerless they are and how, in a second, their lives can change. In the work I do as a medium, it can be difficult to ask people to find gratitude in their lives. Most of the time their lives are filled with sorrow and grief. In their darkness, it is very hard for them to see the light.

It is important to make a distinction between feeling grateful and being grateful. We don’t always have total control over our emotions. We cannot easily will ourselves to feel grateful, less depressed, or happy, especially after the death of a loved one. Being grateful is a choice, an attitude that endures even in the darkest time. Processing an horrific experience through a grateful lens does not mean denying it. Instead, it means realizing the power you have to transform a terrible experience into a positive channel for gratitude. Finding gratitude even for the smallest thing will help your mind shift from sadness. Gratitude creates a new focus and breaks the stream of sadness.

I would like to share a story from my client Rosemary. She was able to find thanks even through her grief. Her daughter Jen struggled from the age of thirteen. Even at this young age, Jen knew that she did not want to be alive. Rosemary did everything to help her daughter find happiness. She tried many different types of therapies. Her daughter learned multiple religions trying to find her sense of purpose. But to no avail. Jen could not find a reason to live. Anyone who knew Jen thought she was a normal teen, but deep in her heart she longed to leave this world. At seventeen she committed suicide.

When I met Jen, she was in the heavenly realm. She had a big smile on her face and in her arms she held her favorite cat Cosmo. Her spirit thanked her mother for being her best friend and understanding her struggle. Jen has now found her sense of purpose and explained that her soul was not ready for this world. Rosemary told me that everyday she gives thanks. She is so grateful to be her mother and that she had seventeen years with her amazing child, but most of all she is so thankful that her beautiful daughter is now at peace.

Each day I walk to watch the setting sun. The evening sky is all aglow as Heaven turns its lantern down on this October night. I find as the days are shorter and the nights grow longer, the veil between the physical world and the spirit realm becomes thinner.

We are connected energetically to everything in the universe. So the influence of the moon, the tides, the weather and the seasons all affect the way we can communicate with Spirit. This is the time of the year when it is easiest to bring through messages from Spirit.
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The autumn equinox possesses a great significance. It reminds us that we are in tune with the afterlife and that death is simply another part of life. The equilibrium of the day and night serves as a reminder to balance the light and dark within our own lives. At this time of year, many cultures seek to have a deeper interaction with the spirit world through celebrations such as the Day of the Dead, All Saints Day and All Souls’ Day. These celebrations are designed to honor the dead who in many cultures are believed to return to their earthly homes when the veil is thin. Many families construct an altar to the dead in their homes to honor deceased loved ones. The intentions that are created by these days bring us closer to the afterlife.

To create an altar for a loved one: Put the altar in a quiet corner of your home where you like to sit in meditation. The foundation of the altar can be a tray, scarf, marble or wood. You can also use a table or shelf. Place pictures of your loved ones in the center. Add to the altar anything that is special and meaningful to you. You may also want to add crystals, flowers, jewelry, incense or a picture of a religious figure. I love mass cards that I have collected from funerals. I will add a mass card to my altar to represent the spirit of my loved one.

Join me on All Souls’ Day, November 1, at sunset. Light a candle and sit for a few minutes to receive messages on this special day. Our universal energy will light the world.

There is no doubt in my mind that I was put on this earth to provide others with the undeniable evidence that death is an end of a physical life but not of a relationship. That souls choose each other long before our time together on Earth and remain connected after death. It is now comforting to know what my path is, but at the age of five when my brother died, it was difficult to understand that I was being prepared for my life’s path as a medium.
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But beyond that, I am here to assist others to unwrap their own soul connections with their loved ones who have crossed over. That is why I love my Spiritual Life Coaching session. It provides exercises, teachings and techniques to help you feel the presence of and receive messages from the soul of a loved one. I teach you how to put your life back together and to find insight into why such heartbreaking events happen in our lives. The most remarkable part of this session is that your loved ones guide me in helping you find these answers and to move through the sadness that has filled your heart.

When you are ready to take the next step to heal, spiritual life coaching may be just what your soul is longing for.
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In this July blog, I want to share with you the types of visions that the spirits of your loved ones communicate to me during our sessions. Many times when clients schedule an appointment with me, they have a preconceived understanding of what their session will entail. Though it may be difficult to have a session with me without expectations, Spirit has its own agenda.
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Before the session I never know what messages you will receive, but I will ask for messages that you need, not necessarily what you want. Messages that will help you heal. When I open up to the spirit world, the spirits take me back to a time and place that were very important in their life on Earth. They may show me an image of a favorite place to sit with a friend, a tea set, a path of roses, a favorite car or a sewing machine that was used at a factory job. They may also whisper a favorite song in my ear. If smoking was an important part of their life, I will get a whiff smoke. This does not mean that these material things are still important in Heaven, but material things are what will jar your memory. Should you have many sessions, the need for the material memories will start to fade, and the spiritual connection will become stronger. For now, it is the material that brings the connection to you.

There are some spirits that will give me a long, in-depth description of their death. Others just want to talk about their life. I never know what the spirit will bring to the session. What is most important is that they bring love, healing and peace.