Every May, I try to write my blog about mothers. Mothers are a large part of our soul’s journey, and the understanding of that relationship is important. For those who had great relationships with their mothers, the journey is a little easier to understand, but no relationship comes without its lessons.
I had separate sessions with two different women, yet the theme of their messages was exactly the same. The spirits of both mothers came through and thanked their daughters for their relationships. Each woman explained to me that she did not have a loving relationship with her mother. I could not change my message because the spirits insisted that their mothers both felt loved at the end of their lives. One woman explained that when her mother needed hospice, she took her into her home and cared for her until she died. The other woman told me that she traveled miles to care for her mother in the last months of her life. Even though there were disagreements throughout their lives, the souls of both mothers found resolution because their daughters showed acts of love at the end.
In a session with Steve, another perspective came to light. As soon as I opened up, the spirit of Steve’s mother came through. She told Steve it was enough. He was shocked because during the last years of her life, all she said to him was that it was never enough. After his father died, Steve took care of all his mother’s finances. He visited her as much as he could while dealing with a very stressful job and an active family. She wanted him to take over the role of his father and help her with every decision. Instead, Steve tried to help her find independence, but she would not hear of it. She became angry and depressed which made their visits difficult. Eventually she became sick and needed to go into a nursing home. Steve told me he had tried for months to get her stronger so she would not have to leave her home, but in some strange way, she wanted to go into the nursing home. She wanted someone to take care of her. Her spirit explained that after death, she felt his love and his frustrations. Her journey was to find her independence, and her son was there to help her learn this lesson. Even though she certainly did not understand this while on Earth, now in spirit she has a deeper knowing.
Through a life that may have been filled with conflicts, love finds a way. We have been incarnated on earth to grow, and relationships are brought into our lives to help us achieve this growth.
My mother and I seemed close, but there was turmoil at different times throughout our lives. It was a struggle for two strong women to find an understanding and learn how to unconditionally love each other. Why souls choose each other is still not totally clear to me, but by the end of her life, that didn’t matter. What is important is that love is shared in whichever way it can be from the heart.
If your mother is here on earth, enjoy Mother’s Day with her. If your mother is in spirit, spend some quiet time remembering the journey that the two of you walked in this life. Whatever your life situation has held for both you and your mother, remember there was a bond and once in the afterlife, the clarity of this journey will be understood.