Imagine watching someone you love cry. You can feel her pain, but as you reach out to comfort her there is no response. You hug her, say words of comfort, and gently touch her face but she looks right through you as if you are invisible. All of a sudden you see a smile, you telepathically hear your name and you know you have made a connection. Now all you want is for her to take a minute to quiet her mind and connect with you. Your energy sends a surge of light or you drop a feather from the sky, you want to be acknowledged and let her know you are not gone. Yet you hear her say, “I lost my husband” and you shout, “I am not lost. I am here.” This is what the spirit of your loved one feels as he or she watches you grieve. Death is moving into another dimension after the physical body dies, there is still a connection to be made.
I hear from my clients over and over again, “I am not getting a sign from my loved one.” I guarantee you that there are indications, beside the little signs moving around us. There is a more intense connection waiting to happen, but you have to put effort into this bond to make it grow. It is no different from learning a new language. It would take me years to be able to connect with someone from a foreign country. But with diligent work and practice I would be fluent in that language.
Spirits have asked me to teach their loved ones their new language so they can continue to communicate and build their relationship. Yet as I have tried to teach my clients how to communicate they get discouraged and drop back into their loss. It saddens me to say, that in this life we will experience sorrow but spirit has taught me that we have choices. We can fall into the darkness of grief or reach to the light. Reaching to the light is the difficult choice but for the growth of your soul the most rewarding. With practice, commitment and a belief you can communicate with spirit.
I teach a monthly class to facilitate communication. On the day of the class, I can feel the disappointment from the spirits when their loved ones don’t make the effort to come to class. Do I tell the spirit that his mother is too busy tonight with his sister or grandkids to come and learn to hear him? I would hear back, “My sister has our mother every day, and I only have her one day a month at this class to send my thoughts and love.” It is hard for him to understand when he sees his mother crying because she cannot hear him. Yet we are offering a new way to make this happen but we get no commitment.
I can also feel the joy of the spirits. Last month, hours before I left to teach my class, I felt such joy run through my body. I knew it was from a spirit of a young man whose happiness was wonderful. Within that hour I received a phone call from a client who asked me if he could bring a young woman to class. He told me she was a very important girl in his son’s life before he died. I did not realize what was happening until class and felt this young man’s delight to see this girl.
This situation made me realize how important it is for us to take the time for spirit. Is it that humans have a belief that death takes someone very far away and we cannot cross the vale until we die? That is not true. Our soul is alive and wants to connect. Is it that humans are not ready to give of themselves when they are not getting immediate satisfaction, or we think that we can only love in physical form.
What many of my clients don’t realize is that it took me years of practice. I came to class each week with no expectation and left with the most amazing gift. My secret is that I came to class and dedicated my life to spirit.
I hope each of you who are grieving will seek out a group and dedicate yourself to learning how to communicate with your loved ones. I know they are anxious to share their new existence with you.