When I start a session, I explain to my client that when you die you loose all attachment to the material world. You do not care about your hair, your car or any of your material possessions. As I opened up to the energy field of my client Jen, I saw the spirit of her grandmother.
Jen was very excited because she was very close to her grandmother and longed to have communication with her. I could see her grandmother sitting in a winged-backed chair. Her hair and make-up were nicely done, and she had on a very colorful pantsuit. The room around her was filled with things. I smiled and told Jen that most spirits do not care about the material, but her grandmother was the exception. I could feel that her belongings were very important to her. Jen confirmed to me that her grandmother loved her things. Her hair was always perfect, and she wore a lot of color. I explained to Jen that this does not mean that her grandmother is still on Earth sitting with her stuff, but instead, her grandmother feels that appearing with her possessions makes it easy for her to be recognized. Jen agreed that it would not be her grandmother without beautiful hair, make-up and her collection of knick-knacks.
When a spirit communicates with a medium, the spirit chooses a memory that was very important in his or her life and a memory that a loved one will recognize. Memories are what keep your relationship long after death. When you have a vision of your loved one sitting in the back yard or sitting at the kitchen table or fishing at a favorite lake, this is their way of keeping your connection eternal.