Susan was trying to come to terms with her decision about the upcoming holidays. She contacted me to communicate with the spirit of her mother. Lucy had died four years ago, and for the last three years, Susan took it upon herself to follow her mother’s traditions. Lucy loved the holidays and spent an enormous amount of time creating special memories. Susan, as the elder of five siblings, felt it was her responsibility to carry out her mother’s love for the holidays.
The first year was great. The family gathered around the table. They enjoyed the food, the decorations and all that Mom would have done. The second year, her siblings were somewhat resistant but still came together. The third year, even more so. Now Dad has a new lady friend and wants to spend part of the holiday with her family. Susan’s siblings have expressed that they want to celebrate with their children and grandchildren. Susan feels hurt and believes that they are betraying her mother.
During our session Lucy’s spirit came quickly to communicate with Susan. Lucy did not feel upset about her family’s lack of enthusiasm about getting together during the holiday. What was sorrowful for Lucy was that her beloved daughter was so troubled. Lucy explained to Susan that it was normal for everyone’s life to continue. Even when life goes on, the memories will always be there, and Susan must now allow her family to create their own traditions.
When the session came to a close, Susan told me that even though that was not the answer she wanted from her mother, she felt a sense of relief. She did not have to live in her mother’s shoes any longer. She will still hold her mother’s traditions and whoever wants to join will do so without any expectations. She will even extend the invitation to friends.
It is so important to understand that your loved ones in spirit do not hold any expectations of you. It may even be important for you to start a new spirit relationship in your holiday rituals. Take time from the bustle of the holidays to take a quiet moment to feel your loved one’s presence. Meditate and let the spirit of the people who have shaped your life in.