The month of October will come to an end with Halloween or “All Hallows Eve” when the veil between the realm of living and dead becomes the thinnest. This is the day for spirit communication. The following day, “All Saints Day,” is the time to honor our guardian angels, spiritual companions and the saints that work hard to guide us throughout the year. The day after, November 2nd, we celebrate “The Day of the Dead” or “All Souls Day.” As a medium, this day is very important to me because it is the day that we honor the souls that have transitioned into the realm of the afterlife.
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The Day of the Dead is part of my everyday life, and it is an honor for me to be able to work with the dead. For those who have had the opportunity to have a session with me, you may have noticed that I take a few minutes of silence before each session begins to ask the Angel of Death for permission to enter his realm. At the end of the session, I take another minute to give thanks to the dead as I close the door of communication.

On November 2nd, I will do a special ceremony of gratitude. I will give thanks and light a candle for all the spirits who allowed me to communicate with them this year. Then I will light another candle for the spirit of my loved ones as I reflect on the life we shared. I will end with a prayer and a meditation.

I hope you can find the time to connect with spirit on this powerful day.

I love this time of year, the evening sky is all aglow and the setting sun shines upon the colors in the trees. I find as the days are shorter and the nights grow longer, the veil between the physical world and the spirit realm becomes thinner.

We are connected energetically to everything in the universe. So the influence of the moon, the tides, the weather and the seasons all affect the way we can communicate with Spirit. This is the time of the year when it is easiest to bring through messages from Spirit.
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The autumn equinox possesses a great significance. It reminds us that we are in tune with the afterlife and that death is simply another part of life. The equilibrium of the day and night serves as a reminder to balance the light and dark within our own lives. At this time of year, many cultures seek to have a deeper interaction with the spirit world through celebrations such as the Day of the Dead, All Saints Day and All Souls’ Day. These celebrations are designed to honor the dead who in many cultures are believed to return to their earthly homes when the veil is thin. Many families construct an altar to the dead in their homes to honor deceased loved ones. The intentions that are created by these days bring us closer to the afterlife.

To create an altar for a loved one: Put the altar in a quiet corner of your home where you like to sit in meditation. The foundation of the altar can be a tray, scarf, marble or wood. You can also use a table or shelf. Place pictures of your loved ones in the center. Add to the altar anything that is special and meaningful to you. You may also want to add crystals, flowers, jewelry, incense or a picture of a religious figure. I love mass cards that I have collected from funerals. I will add a mass card to my altar to represent the spirit of my loved one.

Taking the time to communicate with the spirit of your loved one is a wonderful way to keep your connection.

Welcome to September where we are now feeling the change in temperature. What a difference from the hot summer to the cool winds slowly coming upon us! Change is apparent. This July when everyday it was in the high nineties, the heat seemed never-ending. We felt stuck. That is how life can feel: That we are stuck. But if we hold on long enough, there will be change. Even through our deepest feelings of despair, change will come. I feel that non-permanence is one of the many secrets in life.
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I recently spoke to a client of mine from the past and was happy to hear that she is doing well. Years ago when I first met her, she was in a dark place of grief. Her husband had just died, and she was forced to leave her home. She had confided in me that she had thoughts of ending her life. With our sessions and the help of the spirit of her husband, she was able to accept the change and understand that if she persevered, the darkness would pass. When I met her now, her darkness had passed. She told me that she continued the meditations that I taught her and kept the spirit of her husband near, but instead of focusing on her past, she kept herself busy building a new life. She now has a grandchild she spends time with and has moved to a community where she has lots of friends. She explained that life is not wonderful as it once was, but it is good for now.

If you would like to learn how to communicate with the spirits of your loved ones, understand transition and what Heaven is, join me for my “Second Chance to Say Goodbye” workshop on November 2. To learn more, visit my services page at A Second Chance to Say Goodbye.
But for now, be at peace with the changes that come your way.

The world, as we now know it, is ruled by fear, prejudice, chaos, control and greed. You are not the world. You are a spiritual being who is part of a large cosmic family of spiritual beings. When I observe what is going on in the world, I feel dismay, blame and anger. I feel outraged at individuals in power who make decisions that I believe will directly cause suffering. I have to pause and deepen my attention to my inner self. Then I realize that I am experiencing fear, fear for our world and the behaviors that are driven by fear, greed and hatred. I separate myself, and I tap into the loving, forgiving world beyond and respond with understanding and forgiveness.
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A wise teacher once told me that there are only two emotions: love and fear. Love is what we are born with, and fear is what we learn. Before we leave this earth, our purpose is to unlearn fear and bring the acceptance of love back into our hearts. This is the main part of our spiritual journey. Love is our true purpose: to experience love in others but most of all in ourselves. You have the power to shine your light into the world to positive effect.

Once you experience extreme grief, your level of compassion changes. You realize that you came from somewhere else, a world beyond. A world that is full of love where the soul is not judged but instead is blanketed in love.

As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others the permission to do the same. As we become liberated from our own fear, we instinctively liberate others. One person at a time can change and bring light into the world.

I had an amazing session with a young man in his late twenties. As soon as I opened up to the spirit world, I was able to communicate with the man’s brother. I felt pain in the back of my head. The brother confirmed he had been shot and was twenty-two when he died. Unfortunately, he was involved with a gang and did many cruel things when he was alive.
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He continued to explain his death to me. When he felt the impact to his head, he was thrown into a dark room. In this dark room, he started to see many colored lights pulsating around him. He saw shadowed images of people that he recognized, people who had died, people whom he had hurt. He wasn’t afraid. He felt a sense of calmness. These people were not angry with him. Instead, he felt love and forgiveness being poured into his soul. He did not resist.

He was laid on a huge rock which resembled an altar. He saw extreme, bright light. The light was healing him. He knew he was dead, but he felt that he was being healed and would be allowed to go home. He then saw a being come out of the light. He did not recognize the being. It was androgynous. Its skin was very white, almost see-through. This being was telepathically communicating. He realized that this being was his guardian angel. He asked, “Where were you all of my life?” It replied, “I was with you, protecting you until I could not protect you any longer.” He begged for one more chance. The angel pointed down. He was able to look down through beautiful stars, forming into a waterfall. As he looked down, he could see his body being put into a body bag. He knew he was dead. Next, he was lead down a path past all the souls that he had hurt in his life. As he walked, he could feel the pain that he caused each one of them, but strangely, he could feel their love and forgiveness. He said the experience was incredible.

After this story, I looked into my client’s eyes and told him that his brother wants a second chance. I said, “His second chance is through you. Learn from this story. Please change your life.” Tears filled his eyes. “Choose to listen, and you will be guided. Your brother explains that your path is laid out for you. There is a world beyond your expectations. Soon you will receive a call about a job. It will be a referral; you will not know the caller. Take the job. This is the beginning.”

My client did listen to his brother. His life has changed, and he is now walking a path of kindness and love. It is so wonderful that we have these amazing guardian angels and the spirits of our loved ones who can help lead us in this life. All we have to do is learn to listen.

I will be having a workshop on November 2, 2024 to teach you how to communicate with your loved ones in my “Second Chance To Say Goodbye Workshop.” To learn more, visit my services page at A Second Chance to Say Goodbye.

On February 2, 2025, I will help you meet your spirit guide and angels in my “Intuitive Development Workshop.” For more information, visit my services page at Intuitive Development.

If you are interested in attending either workshop, please contact me to register.

The month of June usually greets us with the arrival of the warm weather and the beautiful colors and smells of the beginning of summer. The month of June also reminds us to celebrate our fathers. During this time many clients that come to have a session with me are interested in communicating with their fathers and I am fortunate to get to know many spirits that were called “father” in this lifetime. I would like to share some of their stories.
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Jennifer came to see me for a session. As soon as I opened up to spirit I was able to feel much love around her. I could see a man who had been around fifty years old when he died. I felt a deep love coming from this man and I knew he was Jennifer’s father, and that she was Daddy’s little girl. When I told Jennifer what I was feeling she smiled. Her father told her to stop having regrets because she was not there when he died. She had shared every important moment of her life with him, and she was there to help him when he became ill. But dying was what he needed to do on his own. He asked her to please understand. By the end of our session Jennifer did understand and was at peace by knowing her father was finally healed.

Loretta came reluctantly to see me because she never really knew her father, but hoped to communicate with her stepfather. The first spirit that came through to me was a young man in his late thirties who chain smoked, and had died of a massive heart attack. Loretta confirmed it was her biological father. He told her of the events in her life, that he watched over her, and how proud he was of her. He showed me an older man that he called his best friend. He called this man Ronny. Loretta looked at me with surprise, and told me Ron was her stepfather. She confessed that she never knew that Ron and her Dad were friends. Loretta’s father told me that her mother was embarrassed about marrying her husband’s friend, and did not speak of it. He said it doesn’t matter any longer. He was happy that Ronny was able to take care of her and her mother after his death. Loretta smiled and thanked her dad and Ron for being there for her.

Spirit communication is always interesting, you never know what you will learn about the special people in your life and how it will bring you comfort.

My dad was a difficult father. He did not speak to me much, and when he had something to say it was not always very positive. My parents had a devoted relationship and I was fortunate to be raised in a home with parents who loved each other. My mother was extremely caring and my father treated me as if I was a bother. It wasn’t until a year after he died that I was able to communicate with him and understand why he was not able to be a father to me. After hearing his story I felt compassion and understood that he did the best he could. He had a very difficult childhood. His mother died when he was nine, his father never showed him love. By the time he was a teenager he was living on his own.

When he had his own children he found it very difficult to show love. He was at home every night, provided for the family and kept me safe. Now as an adult I accept his way of caring.

I hope that while our fathers are alive we love and appreciate them, or in some cases let go of the trauma that they may have caused. Resolving a situation while someone is alive is always best, but remember even after death resolution can be possible.

Every May, I try to write my blog about mothers. Mothers are a large part of our soul’s journey, and the understanding of that relationship is important. For those who had great relationships with their mothers, the journey is a little easier to understand, but no relationship comes without its lessons.
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I had separate sessions with two different women, yet the theme of their messages was exactly the same. The spirits of both mothers came through and thanked their daughters for their relationships. Each woman explained to me that she did not have a loving relationship with her mother. I could not change my message because the spirits insisted that their mothers both felt loved at the end of their lives. One woman explained that when her mother needed hospice, she took her into her home and cared for her until she died. The other woman told me that she traveled miles to care for her mother in the last months of her life. Even though there were disagreements throughout their lives, the souls of both mothers found resolution because their daughters showed acts of love at the end.

In a session with Steve, another perspective came to light. As soon as I opened up, the spirit of Steve’s mother came through. She told Steve it was enough. He was shocked because during the last years of her life, all she said to him was that it was never enough. After his father died, Steve took care of all his mother’s finances. He visited her as much as he could while dealing with a very stressful job and an active family. She wanted him to take over the role of his father and help her with every decision. Instead, Steve tried to help her find independence, but she would not hear of it. She became angry and depressed which made their visits difficult. Eventually she became sick and needed to go into a nursing home. Steve told me he had tried for months to get her stronger so she would not have to leave her home, but in some strange way, she wanted to go into the nursing home. She wanted someone to take care of her. Her spirit explained that after death, she felt his love and his frustrations. Her journey was to find her independence, and her son was there to help her learn this lesson. Even though she certainly did not understand this while on Earth, now in spirit she has a deeper knowing.

Through a life that may have been filled with conflicts, love finds a way. We have been incarnated on earth to grow, and relationships are brought into our lives to help us achieve this growth.

My mother and I seemed close, but there was turmoil at different times throughout our lives. It was a struggle for two strong women to find an understanding and learn how to unconditionally love each other. Why souls choose each other is still not totally clear to me, but by the end of her life, that didn’t matter. What is important is that love is shared in whichever way it can be from the heart.

If your mother is here on earth, enjoy Mother’s Day with her. If your mother is in spirit, spend some quiet time remembering the journey that the two of you walked in this life. Whatever your life situation has held for both you and your mother, remember there was a bond and once in the afterlife, the clarity of this journey will be understood.

At the end of last year, I wrote about the death of my cat, Miso. I received many loving responses which truly touched my heart. I was so thankful for all the kind words. Letting go of anyone that we love is difficult. What has helped me through this time is communicating with her spirit. In this blog I want to share with you some techniques to communicate with and recognize signs from your pet.
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While I was waiting for Carol, my veterinarian, to arrive at my home to euthanize Miso, I had a long talk with her. I asked her not to reincarnate but instead to wait for me in Heaven. Pets may reincarnate many times with you in this life, or they may wait for you to take your last breath and then welcome you into the afterlife. Pets will reincarnate fairly quickly. Depending on your life situation, they will gladly come back into your life. I recognized many years ago that Miso struggled with her health. I wanted her to go and rest. I was willing to be introduced to a new spirit. I knew she agreed and promised to stay close.

Communicating with pets that have died can be highly therapeutic, aiding the grieving process by relaying messages of love and closure. How do you recognize when your pet is trying to communicate with you? For me, it is usually during my meditation. I will see Miso standing in my vision. A feeling of warmth comes over me, and a connection is made.

Other signs are:
    • Telepathic messages of thoughts or feelings.
    • A shadow quickly moving at the bottom of your peripheral vision.
    • Scents that remind you of your pet.
    • The impression of a beloved pet jumping on the bed or sofa.
    • Visitation in a dream.
    • Objects related to your pet getting your attention.
    • Clouds creating a vision.
    • Your living pet suddenly staring into space. Animals have a keen ability to see spirit.

Pets and people who have shared the bond of love on Earth will always be connected by this energy. Love is a very powerful energy, creating its own communication. When we love our pet, this bond will not be broken by death. The souls are linked, and when you are in need of this companion, your pet will find his or her way into your arms. This connection will be made whether it is here on Earth or at the moment that you enter into the afterlife.

I offer pet sessions in which I am able to communicate with the spirit of your pet. During this session, you will be able to understand your pet’s perception of his or her last moments. This communication will help you to understand his or her journey and allow you to heal and bring closure to a very traumatic experience.

For those who are friends with me on Facebook, you have already read about my difficult December. My best furry friend died on December 5th. My cat Miso was the love of my life. When I wrote, she sat on my desk and occasionally touched my face. She was my muse while writing the book “Healing the Heart of Grief.” She was and is an amazing cat. The pain of her death was so deep that it is only now that I am finally able to talk about her.
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I understand and honor death; but with Miso, I was not expecting it. It all happened so fast. Within two weeks of treatment for an ear infection, I came to understand that it was not treatable. It became obvious that it was not an ear infection but instead a brain tumor. When I had that realization, the next day I euthanized her. I refused to let this tumor take her dignity away. Before she died, I asked her not to return to this life but to wait for me in spirit. One day we will be together again in a place where sickness does not exist.

A week later, my daughter found me another Siamese kitten. The person that had this kitten relinquished her. I wasn’t sure; it felt all too soon. I remembered the advice that I give to my clients: “Do not dwell in the past but look ahead and find a new soul to love.” The kitten became available on December 11, the date that I celebrate my mother’s transition into spirit. I surrendered my grief; it all fell into place. I know it was synchronicity.

I now have a wonderful kitten whom I call Luna. She will never take Miso’s place, but she has been put into my life to be my new companion on my journey in this life. Miso is not far. On certain days when I meditate, I can see her beautiful soul sitting next to my spirit guides. She is still my inspiration.

I want to thank everyone who shared their time with me in 2023. I so appreciate you. As you go into 2024, be kind to yourself. When someone you love has died, recently or even years ago, the new year can bring on waves of emotions. You don’t have to put expectations upon yourself. Permit yourself to embrace your feelings. If you feel joyful, don’t feel guilty. The spirit of your loved one embraces your joy. If you feel sad, allow those feeling to flow through you.
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There is an identity shift that comes with death. Whether it is a spouse, parent, child, a friend or a pet, their absence in your life will force change upon your soul. Most of us try to resist that change, believing that getting through the pain means trying to remain the same. That is not always true. When we allow death to be a rebirth, then we can give ourselves the opportunity to heal. We will grow with the experience rather than against it. As you let yourself grow, remember that the soul of your loved one is also going through change, and it is so beautiful when you can grow with each other. Growth is not letting go of a loved one but instead binding your souls together.

Let this year be a new year of letting go. Not of your loved one, but of what was. You will never let go of the love and connection that you shared, and neither will your loved one. His or her spirit will hold you close forever as he or she embraces your growth.

Maybe this new year can bring a daily ritual where you can take a few minutes to connect with your loved one. We all talk to their spirits throughout our day, but Spirit reminds me that we need to sit quietly so they can respond.

Find a quiet place, sit in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Then take a moment to breathe and become attuned to your body. Take note of everything that you are experiencing in this moment. Do not resist what you see. If you think you are sad, scattered or whatever emotion, let yourself accept these feelings. This is who you are in this moment, and that is okay.
Imagine that you are rising up above yourself and looking down. Visualize a hug. Forgive yourself for anything you think that you are doing wrong. Allow yourself to feel acceptance and love. Meet yourself with true compassion. As you open to love, you will feel the spirit of your loved one connecting with you, joining you as you grow together. When you are ready, return to your body and take some slow, deep breaths before you open your eyes.

If at first you don’t feel the connections, please, please don’t be discouraged. It may take a few tries. The bond is there. Keep on loving yourself, and through that love, you will find a new and wonderful soul connection.

With many blessings on your journey to growth throughout this new year.