This is the time when we miss our loved ones. Grief becomes more difficult. Especially when those around us want to celebrate the holidays and the truth is that we don’t feel merry and cheerful. My work as a medium becomes very busy during this time. Having the connection with the spirit of our loved one can be extremely healing. Finding a medium and connecting with your loved ones is the best gift that you can give yourself.
I had a session with a woman who was having a very hard time with the death of her father. At the age of twelve her parents got divorced and afterward she did not see him very often. When she heard her father was dying she went to his bedside. As he lay in bed dying he took her hand and in a weak whisper he said three words to her,
“I love you.” As tears rolled down her check she told me that she felt peace that he said these words but most of all anger that so much time was lost.
As I opened up for her session, the spirit of her father came rushing in. He explained to her that after the divorced his life fell apart. He started drinking heavily and never really got his life back together. But what he wanted her to remember was the twelve holidays that he spent with her. He loved Christmas and made each one special. He talked about their first, second and third Christmas together, which of course she had no memory of but when he spoke of her fourth through twelve those memories came pouring back. He reminded her of how he taught her how to ice skate and that he bought them matching hats. By the time our session was over it was as though she met her father again. The anger she once felt lifted off her and the peace and love took over. By connecting with spirit you are then better able to understand their perspective.
For myself I step away from the traditional holidays. My mother loved Christmas. Her birthday was Christmas Eve so it made it even more special. I can’t duplicate her traditions but instead I honor her with the lighting of a candle, hanging her ornaments on the tree, using her rosary for prayer and a slice of pizza. These were the simple things that were important to her. But most of all she lives in my heart all year round.
Wishing you a blessed holiday season.